Healing anxiety through true acceptance

When we try to force anxiety away, we always fail. Why is that?

Have you ever been in the sea and tried to push a beach ball down under the water. What happened? The harder you pushed it down, the more forceful it bounced back up, right.

The same applies when we mentally try to push feelings of anxiety away. Those feelings bounce back harder.

I teach people that they have a choice.  They can either fight and resist anxiety or they can move into true acceptance of it and allow it to be present.

When you move into a state of true acceptance of how you are feeling you create a gap for nervous system to calm and heal.

So through acceptance, we paradoxically heal anxiety.

Another great paradox of healing anxiety is that when we drop our expectation of getting a result, we heal even faster!

I know many of you ‘get’ these ideas but you still find it hard to put them into practice.
I want to share a short audio with you from the Panic Away coaching program.

On the call you will hear Patrick really nail the concept of acceptance and how it heals his anxiety. Take a listen to how inspiring his words are!

The audio is very short so don’t miss it. It might be exactly what you need to hear today!

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22 replies on “Healing anxiety through true acceptance

  • Gwen Diehn

    Thanks Barry for this very helpful audio clip. Patrick’s words were exactly what I needed! I got your email on my phone as I was walking out the door to go to the dreaded driver’s license office to renew my driver’s license. I have been dreading this for a long time, put it off till the last minute. No real reason to dread, have never failed to renew my license, just general anxiety and dread of having a p.a. in the place. Patrick reminded me that this is really just a great opportunity to practice and observe, to remain non-judgmental of any feelings that rise up. So thanks for your kindness in keeping in touch.

  • Allison

    A truly refresher course….I cannot thank you enough for sharing that with me.
    I usually get high anxiety going to doctors for check ups….the other day my
    blood pressure was “so out of line”!!.
    Have another doctors appointment later on this month, and hopfully this
    message of acceptance will help me greatly.

  • Sabrina

    Thank you so much
    And thank you Barry. Your reminders often come just at the right moment.
    I was feeling so tired today, I went through my day, did everything I had to, but with a high level of anxiety and a lot of judgement…already worrying about how it`s going to be tomorrow.
    This audio gives me strength to relax today and stop the judgement. Thank you for reminding me of the gift that comes with the challenge. It`s really great to hear we`re not alone.
    We`re all in this world together.

  • Lidia

    Thank you for the great reminder especially that we just have increased body sensations and we are not dying from some undiagnosed illness. I have been diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and since getting a Cpap machine l have felt a little better and thought l was cured. Then l have a bad day and realsie what your tape reminded me that l have to learn to live with this and get on with my life rather than expect a miracle and there are a lot of other people with anxiety that just don’t talk about it because they feel embarrassed or ashamed so just withdraw from other

  • Pat

    Thanks to Patrick for making this so clear for me. I tend to control or even fight my anxiety and he reminded me to ‘let go and accept’. Some days are good for me others rotten. Sometimes I avoid going places …for fear of… what may happen. So from today I am going to accept my bodily sensations and go with it and accept it without any fight and let it do what it wants. I will tell it I don’t care any more. Thanks again Patrick for your honesty and and direction, it has opened a door for me.

  • Kers

    Thanks Barry, you’re emails are always so helpful and honest! It is alwyas the bodily sensations that set me off, and I still find that difficult and frightening. This audio reminded me of a meditation that is of great help to me “Resist nothing” by Kim Eng (Eckhart Tolle’s wife). Maybe others will find that helpful too.

  • Farhana

    Thank you Barry! Such perfect timing. Those who go through this pain from hell, do you know of any local or online support group that I can join?

    Thank you.

  • Vee Harness

    Oh Wow!

    What a great audio. So encouraging. I am learning to accept – and have not had a full blown panic attack now for nearly a year. Every morning I still have the churning stomach, and the sense of foreboding and dread. However, I am learning that because I judge this, I actually encourage it. When the real anxiety kicks in, and the adrenalin flows, I now have learned not to add more fear, and although it is really uncomfortable, I know it will pass – this has been hugely exciting to me. There is definitely light at the end of my tunnel – and its not a train coming towards me!!

  • Vee Harness

    What an awesome, frank and encouraging audio. I have been on several of the coaching calls, and have always found them so very helpful. It has been over 8 months now since I had a full blown panic attack, I still get the churning stomach every morning – but am learning that it is because I am expecting it with dread, it obviously shows up! Acceptance, utter acceptance is difficult, and I work on it on a daily basis.

    However, I truly can see light at the end of my tunnel, and I know that this time, it is NOT a train heading toward me! To all my fellow experiencers of panic and anxiety – I send my love and encouragement, and I thank you for showing me that I am not alone. (special hug to Michelle) x

  • Bob

    The “Healing anxiety through acceptance” recording was great. What you resist, persists. The
    universal law of inpermanance says “nothing lasts forever” , nothing! Your anxiety will change.
    Let go of the tendency that we all have to want things to be different from how they are right now
    ,and allow (and accept) things to be exactly as you find them. Allow yourself to be exactly as you are at this time. Always keep in mind that everything changes and that you are not your thoughts.
    Keep up the good work..

  • Joanne

    Thank you Barry, you are such a great person for doing this for us. I have had anxiety now for 5yrs and i am getting better and it is hard to accept it when it just keeps coming back the next day. Its like groundhog day where i try and not focus on the anxiety and put good thought into my head. The other times i’ve had anxiety in my life i’ve been able to tell it to go away and not give another thought (after much diIema but this time I haven’t been able to do that. The strange part about it is i have nothing to worry about) but I am getting better and thank you for keeping us positive that we will get through this xx

  • Renee Brown

    Thank you Barry,,,,, I dont know what I would have done if I hadent found you, You are Heaven sent.
    Thank you for all that you do.

  • Dawn Tola

    Thank you Barry!!! As I experience a panic attack, I can easily forget that others go through these experiences too. Somehow you feel it is only you. Thanks to you and Panic Away, this is not the case. You have had these experiences yourself and it shows because only someone who has been there would know what it feels like. I really would be scared to death if it was only me going through these awful feelings. Thank you again, so much!!

  • Nancy

    Thanks for this! Something that Patrick talked about really resonated with me. The lingering judgement following a severe bout of anxiety. For me it used to carry a level of shame that did not serve me in any good way. To let go of needing to punish myself for having anxiety appear in my life, is a move in a healthy direction. It has been my experience that letting whatever is happening, be it an emotion that we label as good or bad, to just be here, to feel the feelings, and then let it go, allows me to live more fully and completely. By “letting go”, I can discover the peace that is always here, for me, underlying everything that is happening on the surface.

  • Caryl

    Thank you for this. I must say that if I had not of signed up to Panic away a few years ago, I really dont know what I would of been like now. It has saved my mental state, my family and my life and I cannot thank you enough. Every little ting helps. Hearing from others who are going through the same thing is a great help. I agree that acceptance is the answer. But I am not sure how to accept it freely if the situation that is making you anxious is still there staring you in the face everyday. I am not sure if I always have the strength.

  • Rose

    Thank You Barry. Having gone through panic and anxiety attacks for to many years, I’ve finally come to the realization that there is nothing I can do but accept it. If I allow myself to indulge in them, they automatically become worse. Now I do my best to just watch them and acknowledge the fact that they won’t hurt me. Everyday is a new challenge with a new anxiety, but I feel with your program I’m more able to handle them. Thank you for caring!!!!!!!!!

  • Eleanor Dorst

    Boy, do I break down crying when I listen to this guy at the end… such true, heart-felt sentiment that only us panic sufferers understand. I have listen to this for a week and it touches my heart like no other. Thanks for this gift!

  • joey

    I agree with carly about not knowing just how to accept this anxiety. I have places I have to go and I have such a hard time going. I usually end up running out because I can’t sit there without feeling like I’m going to pass out. But I’m trying. I am trying to use the 21/7 but I can’t seem to get it to work for me. I’m too nervous to do it. It really helped to hear this conversation. I don’t feel so all alone. Thank you.

  • Artie Hartman

    Thanks to Barry and Patrick. The commentry was deep and heart felt, very clear, and showed a deep understanding of these awful feelings we all share. it is a great tool to help us overcome them. Not going into new panic over panic, not fighting at all, but accepting and going with the flow, wow, that is great, and big help to me.

  • Shan Underwood

    Barry Thanks so much for the positive words. I have been battling anxiety off and on for years. My first experience with it was when my mom passed and then I went through a divorce and then my brother passed in a year time frame. At one point in my live I was even agoraphobic, it wasn’t too long after that, that I contacted you and you sent me a book and cd’s. And I got to where I could reach the door knob again with out shaking. Going somewhere was a horrible experience for me. My boyfriend, one day said lets go out. I tried to act brave.But he knew, that it was hard for me. SO, I took a shower, which was hard for me, My mom died in the bathroom so , I did not like to take showers when I was home alone. But I did that day. And then I got my hair done and as i was putting on my mascarra, I started shaking so bad that I was getting it everywhere. As I knew this was the last step to having to reach for the door. My boyfriend was a gentleman, He was good about opening doors. But this time he made me do it. I thought I was going to die. I was so weak. I could not even turn the Knob. I finally got it.Then I had to go outside. And then he made me drive. I was shaking so bad I could not even hardly press the gas peddle. I was still trying to act like nothing was wrong. But he said I was white as a sheet. And by the time we got to our destination he was too. for i drove very fast. The whole night I was uptight. And was never so glad to be home. I found comfort in just reading the panic away book, just reading it would calm me. So I thank you very much for reaching out to me.

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